tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post962633848645906992..comments2023-03-31T06:54:09.205-04:00Comments on Just Add One Chinese Sister: healing Eme's heartUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-8958064728709068012010-02-15T09:35:28.058-05:002010-02-15T09:35:28.058-05:00wonderful post Tracy. you are an amazing mom with ...wonderful post Tracy. you are an amazing mom with one amazing little girl.kitchuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03907460384010952009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-70361053647500689342010-02-11T17:28:46.060-05:002010-02-11T17:28:46.060-05:00She is so beautiful and so are you T. You are a G...She is so beautiful and so are you T. You are a GREAT Mommy. You are so smart to think/look/examine it all and give her exactly what she needs. Not all parents do that. <br /><br />We too parent Kate very differently than the boys. I always tell people that the boys were born trusting and loving us but we had to earn Kate's trust. Now that she has been home for 3 years (and she was so young-10 months) when we got her....I do think she completely trusts us and her love.3 Peanutshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15124969727188599965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-63110493414479137122010-02-10T20:15:20.914-05:002010-02-10T20:15:20.914-05:00Great post - you have a gift :)
My daughter (home...Great post - you have a gift :)<br /><br />My daughter (home 23 months) woke up this morning in her own bed, she didn't notice me as I watched her walk to the stairs and go down. It was the first morning I remember her not crying hysterically when she woke up. a wonderful milestone. Eme is doing so well and using the ergo is so wonderful for her. keep it up, she's knows she is loved!ellieshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15434901406491353495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-77077649181904009112010-02-10T11:44:51.615-05:002010-02-10T11:44:51.615-05:00I'm a lurker. I've been lurking here and t...I'm a lurker. I've been lurking here and there for quite a while. I just wanted to come out of lurkdom to tell you that you are doing a great job! I love your writing style and your honesty - it is like a breath of fresh air... Your family is beautiful! <br /><br />AmandaAmandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15362896625721405271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-54832587105214322612010-02-10T01:47:22.153-05:002010-02-10T01:47:22.153-05:00She is sweet perfection & you guys are AMAZING...She is sweet perfection & you guys are AMAZING parents. I continue to learn so much from you, and Georgea is the beneficiary.<br /><br />Much love & big hugs to you and your Emerson Grace,<br />AmyGeorgea's Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04124763693883409480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-10075851715705662672010-02-10T00:55:17.588-05:002010-02-10T00:55:17.588-05:00Totally bawling reading this. Adam has awoken from...Totally bawling reading this. Adam has awoken from a sleep and been absolutely screaming. When we were on holidays, he went nuts on night and started screaming and running around the room. It took a lot to calm him down and he was hitting us away and trembling, like we were going to hurt him or something. I was SCARED. He hasn't done this since last summer, but I often wonder how often he goes to his "dark place". All I know (and I feel like it is never enough) is that we love him and want him to feel safe and secure. ANd to know that we are always there. Time, I guess, will be the great healer in this case. <br /><br />Sounds like you know just what to do with Eme. I really wish I could put Adam in a carrier...but he's 65 pounds. :-)Middle-Aged Moihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05687022843803093290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-69177425903790833092010-02-08T13:14:40.563-05:002010-02-08T13:14:40.563-05:00Eme is so beautiful!!! Good luck with everything t...Eme is so beautiful!!! Good luck with everything this week.<br />dDaniellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14596859412414942719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-85960499569342609002010-02-07T21:18:26.508-05:002010-02-07T21:18:26.508-05:00How wonderful for Eme that you recognize the need ...How wonderful for Eme that you recognize the need to parent her in a way that meets HER needs, regarless if it comes naturally or not. The fact that you are hyper aware of her needs and potential needs is a step in the direction of healing Eme's little soul. She is such a beautiful child, and she has a beautiful and devoted family.<br />Thank you for your honesty.Anihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09513687544829152823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-10382135219880480662010-02-07T20:21:47.398-05:002010-02-07T20:21:47.398-05:00yes...a bootiful girl with a good Mommy :)yes...a bootiful girl with a good Mommy :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-19537738252365285302010-02-07T17:09:45.932-05:002010-02-07T17:09:45.932-05:00T....You inspire me. Thank you for being so hones...T....You inspire me. Thank you for being so honest about everything that Eme is going thru. Lately we've been seeing some issues that I thought we had conquered.... and now I think - well that was plain stupid of me to think anything was "conquered". This is an ongoing process. The good, bad and ugly. Right now we have some ugly stuff to deal with, and it just plain sucks when other people don't get it, choose to ignore it or don't support it. You are a wonderful mother, and Eme is flourishing, and will continue to. Keep me posted on how everything goes. I am thinking its time for H to get some NR time...Colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11041922509494614265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-78319379957911772642010-02-07T13:52:32.801-05:002010-02-07T13:52:32.801-05:00I am honored that she continues to find comfort in...I am honored that she continues to find comfort in her *Glinda* blankie.<br /><br />I am in awe of your intuition and capabilities as a mother...I soak up every word like a sponge, storing it in my soul so that my reference library will be up to date and ready for me when I need it.<br /><br />To say thank you to you just doesn't seem adequate...Glindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00886016163969968604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-85153967935884527692010-02-07T12:56:58.523-05:002010-02-07T12:56:58.523-05:00We experienced many of these same issues with our ...We experienced many of these same issues with our Abby who is now 7. The not crying when she got hurt, her hyper-vigilance and her terror of being left alone were probably the most heartbreaking issues for us. I'm so thankful I recognized right away that I was going to have to be a different mom for her and that it would be my job to anticipate and meet her every need. It's been a long road, and it now brings tears to my eyes when I see her on stage dancing at her ballet recital or see her running into her 1st grade classroom. It's hard work, but so rewarding. I'm glad you are able to recognize Emerson's "special needs" and that you can take the time to hold her, keep her close to you and figure out what you need to do to heal her heart and spirit. Best of luck as you continue this journey with your precious daughter.Shari Uhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01069658983242566841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-69825747828814616682010-02-07T10:02:57.285-05:002010-02-07T10:02:57.285-05:00Now that M's older, I am able to see that the ...Now that M's older, I am able to see that the ugly place her mind wanders to sometimes is completely out of her control. I don't think it's about what she's actually thinking - it's a little piece of her trauma that sneaks up on her. & she doesn't even understand it. She just feels it. & often it takes a while for her to get back to a place where she is cozy. All you can do in the meantime is exactly what you did. <br /><br />Prepare for an interesting evaluation - B (NR) has an amazing way of analyzing all this,giving you a plan, and reassuring you that Eme will be fine. B/c she will be. & Mali will be, too. They've got some of the best Mom's going . . . =)~ Alisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13690058097250273124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-67645431143023265822010-02-07T07:49:51.821-05:002010-02-07T07:49:51.821-05:00You are doing so well with her!
I thank you for w...You are doing so well with her! <br />I thank you for writing many of the things we are going through but have not put out on our blog. Everyone looks at AA and sees her outside beauty while we deal with all the other "hidden" stuff that goes on. In addition to your list of things "wrong", another example is that AA would fall flat on her face; she didn'tknow to put her hands out to break her fall. It was so heart breaking as we didn't recognize it until her third fall. We have taught her so many things she missed being in the orphanage for 24 months. We have not taken her to any special professional help, so will be interested to hear what they say about your daughter. Thank you again, it was like a weight off me hearing some of the same issues we have.<br /><br />Alyzabeth's MommyAlyson and Fordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09152315459410231214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-29794471537767434392010-02-06T23:25:06.331-05:002010-02-06T23:25:06.331-05:00Can I just say that it gives me great comfort to h...Can I just say that it gives me great comfort to hear you say, as an experienced mother, how different it is to parent and adopted child? As a first time mother to an adopted child, I don't have anything to compare to trying to raise my daughter. She was rough on me for the first 1 1/2 years that we had her. Things are just now getting better. But mothers who don't have adopted children just roll their eyes at me and say it's all normal. WHATEVER!!!! Thank you for saying that our adopted children are not the same as our biological children when it comes down to it. I NEEDED to hear this tonight.Wendyhttp://www.adoptionandfire.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-92023523029502137082010-02-06T21:38:47.102-05:002010-02-06T21:38:47.102-05:00Eme is lucky to have you guys as her family..
She...Eme is lucky to have you guys as her family.. <br />She will have the best of love..<br />Have a great weekend..Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16373111344793230801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-14033241750963758522010-02-06T11:05:13.443-05:002010-02-06T11:05:13.443-05:00First off, Eme is gorgeous, and I agree with you, ...First off, Eme is gorgeous, and I agree with you, she's perfect. Your new digi-scrap page is awesome. I love the quote on the page. (Of course Eme's pics are the highlight, though!)<br /><br />I wanted to thank you for sharing all of this. Even though I am not parenting an adopted child, I can appreciate the information that you are sharing, as I was raised with my foster sisters who were my bio cousins. I can remember a lot of what you are seeing. I also think that the way you describe what you are seeing in Eme will really help others who are parenting adopted children. I think it's brave and inspiring that you are choosing to share this journey. We can all learn a lot from you about living and loving. <br /><br />Thank you!Laciehttp://funnylittlepollywogs.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-65981301388341118392010-02-06T09:02:19.778-05:002010-02-06T09:02:19.778-05:00I wish I had know all of this when we adopted our ...I wish I had know all of this when we adopted our youngest. I read all of this and I know I made so many mistakes with him. He is now 12 and I know some of his "personality" is from his first 14 months in Korea. I do know he was in a WONDERFUL foster home but he still "lost" the only Mom and Dad he knew.<br />I love these pictures of Eme..Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05590329522054940452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-33450687039927506342010-02-06T08:50:37.072-05:002010-02-06T08:50:37.072-05:00Lucky for Eme that you recognize these issues and ...Lucky for Eme that you recognize these issues and that your family is willing to go to the ends of the earth to help her. She is a beautiful child and has already flourished so much in the short time that she has been home with you. Good luck and thank you for sharing your happy times as well as your struggles with us.Suziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02171178800883445977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-71478182142555670672010-02-06T08:43:04.916-05:002010-02-06T08:43:04.916-05:00We had to teach Lily how to cry! She has the potty...We had to teach Lily how to cry! She has the potty scars and a few others, the worst being a large burn on her bottom. Never cried if she fell and hurt herself....it took alot of work<br />. She cries now and has a very gentle heart and "normal" pain threshold. <br />Lily processed her grieving by shutting down after her initial sobbing. But she bounced into her new life unlike her sister but the pain threshold scared us. She had ear infections in both ears, sinus infection, and a chest infection with bronchitis when we got home and wasn't even crying. <br />Thankfully you are educated and Eme will be guided through her healing by someone who understands.dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10929152764990722808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-1099214331604458532010-02-06T08:28:28.999-05:002010-02-06T08:28:28.999-05:00She really is beautiful, Tracy. I wish I had known...She really is beautiful, Tracy. I wish I had known more about this attachment parenting when Tahlia first came home. Looking back, she really needed it. I agree with you that parenting an adopted child is different, even though I never had biological children.<br /><br />Good luck at your meeting. I hope you find some answers.Sandrahttp://jazzieandtahlia.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-71087527361295047762010-02-06T00:57:44.958-05:002010-02-06T00:57:44.958-05:00Hannah hated all her physical therapy stuff too.
...Hannah hated all her physical therapy stuff too.<br /><br />Hope you find answers to your questions at your NR meeting.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12711583593777948158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-209647468117242658.post-87863552385111577302010-02-05T23:43:40.426-05:002010-02-05T23:43:40.426-05:00Our daughter's physical therapist recommended ...Our daughter's physical therapist recommended x-like motions and circling moving her while she sits on a yoga ball. She hated it too. Things got lots better when the physical rherapist had the idea of singing "The Wheels on the Bus" song while we did the exercises. Now our daughter thinks it's play time to balance while sitting on the yoga ball. Music made such a difference!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11282047182701941030noreply@blogger.com