Happy Halloween from our little pumpkin!

Happy Birthday to my sweet boy

Happy Birthday C0le.

We love you more today than we ever have before &

we are so proud of the little man you are becoming.

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update

Yesterday we had Eme's in depth eval for all areas, including cognitive, motor, speech & physical. She scored above and beyond any child her age. 4 months ago she was failure to thrive and at a 6 month level and just look at her now=0)

However my concerns for her hip area are still there and very valid. There was a team of 4 doing her eval yesterday and after I stripped her naked and had her move from point A to point B they finally saw my concerns and gave her history more power and has set us up for some therapy to do core strengthening.

Eme doesn't squat like a normal child and her flexibility is a problem. She has low muscle tone in her southern region and needs some help learning to distribute the weight differently. They don't evaluate the quality of her movement, just that she can do it.

When we arrived to pick her up in China, her legs automatically fell to the side by her ears and she could maintain that pose. She had zero muscle tone and it was obvious that her legs were used to being separated. Her ligature marks from her time served in the potty chair were placed right below her knees, thus creating this wide spread and causing the problems that she has today. When she learned to crawl, she crawled that funky monkey kinda crawl and her legs always swung out. She walks flat footed, not the heel to toe proper walk and she can not walk without falling down or running into something and she does not have the muscle skills to change terrain. I loved that the therapist took all my concerns seriously and regraded her to qualify her for some therapy. Her history was extensively documented in order for her to qualify and we have some exercises that we will be working on at home with a therapy ball.

Since we've come home from NC, she has been repeating sounds and words more often. She can put 3-4 signs together like: (want more water please) or (want more milk please), but now she is beginning to add the words to them. She doesn't just sign eat, she says the word along with many other words. Up till now, she's been pretty slow to speak clearly, but instead took her shot at a parrot squawk. My girls is catching up at a fabulous rate and I'm really glad that I didn't bring her home and throw her into all the therapies that were requested of me by her pediatrician. All she needed was time. We chose to steer clear of everything until her anxiety levels were down and her trust in us was strong enough to move forward and now we don't have to spend all that time around strangers trying to catch her up because she did it on her own.

They also spoke very highly of her attachment, but let's be honest...a PT, OT & Speech pathologist really have no knowledge on the bonding and attachment process in the high risk child, that is not their field of expertise and I took their thoughts with a grain of salt. Just because my girl knows exactly who Mommy & Daddy are and is quite affectionate and acts just like a normal child, doesn't mean that I don't see a few holes in her attachment that still need to be plugged. We're getting there, but it's all a journey that we are traveling together.

& a big congrats to all the new parents (Dan & Doris)!!! So happy for you!

Girls Weekend in chilly North Carolina!

We had a fabulous time at the cute little Lake House that Mare was able to snag! This was the only group photo taken and the fabulous Heather & Georgia were napping while it was all going down, but they were there and I can attest that Ms. G is one of the best babies I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. She's so sweet and extremely smart, her Mama sure knows how to raise em' right! Our girls played like nobody's business and we pretended to not be tired at nap time when it was time to lay our girls down...getting old is a bitch. Just a few random photos that I found irresistible.

I hope we are all able to maintain the connection for our girls sake. I think it will serve as a valuable tool in their life as they grow older. It was so nice to enjoy this time watching our girls play and I especially loved the beautiful fall weather!

A super cute cake made by Robin to celebrate them all~!

The little girls loved feeding the fish & the big girls were afraid their tots were going to take a dive, thus why we are sitting on top of them.

Can you feel the love???

Gracious look at all that foliage in the background! This beach girl is not used to that & I really loved it!

My 'naughty very much' girl...=0)

It was a beautiful weekend and I'm so thankful for these gals. They really do add lots of spice in my life and though the connection used to be about adoption, it has grown into something completely different. Our lives are not about adoption anymore, but instead they are filled with enjoying the now and living in the moment. I thank each of them for who they are and look forward to the next time!

Weekend getaway with a VERY over the top busy girl that can't wait to meet up with all her Chinese sisters...

Instead of waking up at 5 to go to the gym, I'll be heading to the airport to for a fun, relaxing, wear your really crappy clothes and don't bother with hair product kinda weekend. I have no idea where the final destination is, because I just don't really care. I've heard it's chilly and I've packed socks. She will be picking me up and we will be meeting up with her, her, her, her, her and sadly missing 3 other homegirls. I'm so excited to see all of them, but yet I'm t.e.r.r.i.f.i.e.d to travel with my over hyper, can not sit still child.

So in a great effort to pass the time quietly without totally annoying the entire airplane, I have LOADED up the big bag in order to pass the time. I am going carry on only (naturally) & I'm using my entire purse to entertain my child. I thought I was packed today, but decided to make a quick trip to the store to pick up a "few" more entertainment items.

Look at the crap my girl has packed.....

I find this funny for no good reason, other than the fact that her Mama is terrified to fly with her.

The contents of this D0ra lunchbox is filled with lots of little chocking hazards puppies on the bottom, books, light up button pushing things, a princess camera that won't stop talking no matter which position I place it in, 1 princess cell phone, a blinged out phone that talks and will annoy any passenger beside us, & some baby snap together toys and a whole big baggie of snacks! Can't go anywhere without Eme's snacks.

Also included in this trip of fun is a cd player with some music, new headphones because she couldn't deal well with the iphone headphones from our last plane trip, a dvd player with movies and some snap together toys that Daddy thought she needed.

We will be breaking the *** 'No TV' rule this weekend and seeing if she will sit still for a movie....though I doubt it, but I'm holding out hope.

& the pile of stuff all put together nicely to make ONE LARGE BAG, that needs to go underneath my seat....gawd help me.
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The below pictures are crappy because we took them with our tiny point and

shoot POC (piece of crap)...

This is Eme, in her daily naughtiness routine. She knows not to dance on the tables, but she just can't help herself. Every single day we remove her from this same table a dozen times a day.

Last weekend we went to a wedding of an old neighbor friend of ours and her bridesmaid was one of our precious foster daughters many years ago. She was 11 when she lived with us and has blossomed into a beautiful 20 year old girl that lives out west. It was so sweet to see her all grown up. We had a lovely time catching up on her life and remember her childhood.

Have a great weekend folks....I know we will!

***The No TV rule is part of attachment therapy for at least one year. It has a lot to do with how fast the TV moves and changes scenes and their little brains can't catch up with it AND it's the prime place for high risk children to zone out of the 'real' world that they are living in and ignore their reality. We want Eme to live in her reality and adjust to it.

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