Sunday, February 28, 2010

down for the count




This week, Eme spent some R&R time in the big house. She was really sick.

What started out as feeling uncomfortable, ended up as a really bad infection, a UTI.
The ultrasound revealed that one of her kidneys is larger than the other & they believe she has been refluxing back up into her kidney. She will be having some more painful tests done as soon as this infection is cleared up to find out if this will need to be repaired.
They kept her for 2 days to give her a really strong antibiotic drip and we are home now with some really strong oral antibiotics.
I have to say that everything we went through this week was another emotional issue for us. We seem to take 2 steps forward and 1 step back. It's really hard for me to hear her cries and her 'Mommy' screams and me be the one holding her down for strangers to poke, prod and stick strange things in her. She looks in my eyes for reassurance and I can only tell her that it will be okay, that Mommy is here and try to sing songs of comfort to her while all this is going on. I had a whole new level of understanding & sympathy for my friend Mare, who had to come home and hang in the hospital so long right after their China return. It's a trust issue and Eme was really looking at me with those innocent eyes of, "Why are you doing this to me" look.
Her big brother G came to the hospital to give her a cheering up and she couldn't have been more happy to see him. He fed her icecream that was laced with more medicine and they played silly little games. It was the perkiest she had been all day long.
Daddy also brought in a few of her birthday gifts and that helped occupy her time, now we have to re~shop for her birthday....which shouldn't be to hard.
If only perfect health came wrapped inside a little pink box with a white ribbon, we'd be golden.

25 comments:

Kim said...

Sorry to hear that Eme was sooo sick..
Hope the tests come back good.. and she doesn't have to go through any surgeries..
Love her smile in the photo with her brother.. she is a trooper..
Hang on girly.. things will get better..
Have a great week..
Hugs..

The Mommy said...

I am so sorry to hear the Eme is so sick. My daughter Sarah (2.9) had the same urinary reflux condition and we had it corrected at 15 months. She was also adopted and I remember how difficult it was for me to have all of the tests and stuff done. If you want to know more about the tests to come or the surgery, let me know.

Marla said...

Poor sweet girl. Sorry she'll have to go through more pain for the tests, I hope they can fix her up ASAP. Hugs!

Polar Bear said...

I hope she is continuing to feel better. I am so sorry you all have to go through this. You will be in my thoughts and prayers now and especially during the tests.

nerdgirl said...

Poor baby- I hope she is feeling better soon. Hang in there!

Lindsay said...

Sorry to hear Eme is sick - sending her best wishes for a fast recovery.

Daniella said...

I've been thinking about ya'll and hoping Eme is feeling better. Stay strong....

Liz and Ava said...

Hope your little princess is feeling better soon!

A Beautiful Mess said...

glad eme is on the mend!

illness will often set you back a few steps on the ol' attachment journey...but you girls will be just fine!!

Shari U said...

I'm sorry your girl has been so sick. I hope the infection clears up and she won't have any further problems.

Anonymous said...

I hope you feel better soon Eme! You are one brave little girl and your mommy sounds pretty brave too! Sending good thoughts down from the snowy north east. ((((hugs))))) Dale LID 5-24-06

Wanda said...

I'm so sorry you all have had to go through this. Poor sweetheart - so unfair.

Hope she continues to improve and that your world gets back to "normal" soon!

C's Mom said...

I happened to click on a blog for the first time in a while and am so sorry to find out Eme has been sick. I hope each day keeps looking up for your girl. I feel you when it comes to the testing business and having to help...that's some seriously hard stuff.

Sending good vibes and amor to all.

Anonymous said...

Wonder if she was in the group that got the tainted milk in China..

Traci

Anonymous said...

Chinese farmer Xie Rui cries over her 8-month-old son suffering from kidney stones caused by tainted Sanlu baby milk powder



Read more: http://www.time.com/time/world/article/0,8599,1842727,00.html#ixzz0gtD2Mfrt


Sept. 18th, 2008...

Traci

Laurie said...

Poor sweetie...sending good thoughts your way. Hang in there! E has the most awesome brothers.

Half Gaelic, Half Garlic! said...

I am so sorry that sweet little Eme had to go through this. I hope the antibiotics did their job well. Sarah had a really bad UTI a year and a half ago, and they were worried about the kidney reflux as well..... luckily that was not the case, but I know the torture that your little girl faced with those tests. I sobbed as they held Sarah down screaming and crying trying to perform them.

Keep us posted. I hope you find your little pink box with white ribbon:)

Lisa

Kayce said...

I'm so sorry Eme that you feel yucky! We'll be saying lots of prayers for you to get better REALLY soon! Enjoy all your ice-creams from your big brothers!

Hugs to all of you T!

Middle-Aged Moi said...

I'm so sorry, T. Praying for your sweet Eme. Nothing worse than watching your child suffer.

3 Peanuts said...

Oh I am so sorry T! I feel so bad for Eme and I know it is hard on all of you. First thing I thought of was the formula too. Kate WAS on that formula in China but the ultrasound of her kidneys was normal. I will keep y'all in our prayers:)

Kim

kitchu said...

wow, we got the exact same results from the renal US and urodynamics, though for us to some extent it was expected. sadly the refulx into her left kidney was grade 3-4, so she'll be on lifelong Detr*l and a low dose antibiotic. She also has a smaller right kidney and it's swollen with fluid, so there may be another primary obstruction (in her case, strange she wasn't refluxing into both kidneys). there is also scarring/damage to both, but thankfully the urologist is pretty sure daily cathing will help and she won't have to ever be on dialysis.

i can't imagine how hard this all was for you guys. i'll be really anxious to hear the final outcome. thinking of you.

it is incredibly hard to watch our kids go through this stuff. 2 MRI's under general anesthesia and all the invasive tests... i hear you. what bugs me with Elle is that she puts on such a brave face, holds it in and can't let herself cry until so much later. i think it's awesome that your girl is letting her emotions out in the moment.

Melinda said...

I am so sorry to hear that little Eme was sick. I completely understand how helpless you feel as a mother when you child is going through painful tests. Mia was in the hospital for a month back in September. It was so hard!

I will pray that all of her tests come back normal and that she is feeling better soon. Hang in there!

~ Alison said...

Eme is SUPER fortunate to have two amazing, knowledgeable parents (& 3 older brothers) to see her through all this. It certainly doesn't make it any easier to watch her endure all this . . .

Hoping E's on a path to great health really soon.

a Tonggu Momma said...

I so hope she is feeling better soon!

Paulette said...

This can be pritty scary stuff. We had to go through all the urology testing after her redo surgery. It was so hard to see her go through all of this and be strong for her at the same time. In the middle of one of the test I had to be ferm and tell her to stop crying so she would void. She took a couple of deap breaths and let to go and it was all over. I share this with you so you can be ready to help her any way you can.